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Newly Engaged

Dear Newly Engaged Couple,

Congratulations on your engagement! It brings me great joy to see couples commit themselves to each other in marriage and it fills me with hope.

The process of engagement is one of discovery and preparation that is meant to help you build a solid foundation for your marriage, so that it lasts a lifetime.

For that reason, the Church has developed a set of classes to teach you about the joys and challenges of marriage as Christ intended it. These classes will explore the meaning and purpose of marriage, the gift of sexuality, natural family planning and provide you with tools to ensure a healthy, joy-filled marriage.

Before this preparation begins, I encourage you as your spiritual father to make your personal relationship with Christ the foundation of your relationship as a couple. If you love Christ, you will love each other better. And if you love each other well, your marriage will be a happy, joyful witness to the world.

May God the Father bless you during this time of preparation and fill you with his love, and may the Blessed Mother help you grow in intimacy with her son!

Sincerely yours in Christ,

Most Reverend Samuel J. Aquila, S.T.L.

1. CALL YOUR PARISH

(8-12 months before the wedding) Call as soon as you get engaged! It is important to meet with your priest or deacon even before setting a date. A member of the parish staff will schedule a meeting with you to discuss your wedding preparations as soon as possible.

2. INITIAL MEETING

(8 months before the wedding) At this meeting, you’ll learn about the preparation process for the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony, begin the necessary paperwork for your marriage file, and set your tentative wedding date. The initial meetings with a priest or deacon will ensure that there is nothing standing in the way of a wedding in the Church. These initial meetings also begin the process of creating a marriage file, which is a record of everything that was done during marriage preparation.

3. FOCCUS Inventory

(7-8 months before the wedding) The FOCCUS Inventory provides you with a personalized profile of your relationship. Your parish will set up your inventory session and, upon completion, the follow-up sessions needed to review your results. These sessions aim to facilitate communication between you and your future spouse. *Note: Some parishes use inventories other than FOCCUS

4. Marriage Prep Program

(6 months before the wedding) Various programs are available within the Archdiocese, all of which focus on the theology of Catholic marriage as well as important life skills. You’ll receive help identifying a prep program that best fits your needs. If your parish doesn’t offer a program, see the list of “Marriage Preparation Classes” found here.

5. Natural Family Planning

(5 months before the wedding) NFP respects the love-giving and life-giving natures of marriage, and enriches the bond between husband and wife. This course gives couples a natural approach to understanding the cycles of fertility and infertility. Course listings found here.

6. Final Meeting

(2 months before the wedding) This meeting will review your previous preparation, complete all of your paperwork, and plan your wedding liturgy. You’re getting close to celebrating this beautiful sacrament!
*Note: If you are getting married outside the Archdiocese of Denver, then the completed marriage file will have to be submitted by the parish who is preparing you to the Archdiocese of Denver one month prior to the wedding date (two months prior for a wedding outside the United States). The Archdiocese of Denver will review the marriage file to ensure it is complete and will forward the file to the place of the wedding.

7. Reconciliation

(1 week before the wedding) Catholics preparing for the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony  are encouraged to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation.  Reconciliation and the Eucharist are invaluable sources of grace and healing. Celebrate this sacrament with your spouse-to-be!

Marriages in which the partners do not share the same religious beliefs and affiliations are considered “mixed” marriages, or ecumenical marriages. If the couple is a Catholic and a non-Christian, the marriage is considered interfaith. Mixed marriages also include marriages in which the non-Catholic party has no religious persuasion. We know that ecumenical families are not identical; their lifestyles and faith choices are varied. The Catholic Church does try to support these couples to help them prepare to meet faith challenges with a spirit of holiness. Mixed religion couples can live out Christ’s call to be one and often experience a level of ecumenism more acutely.

For couples who are preparing for marriage, good-quality marriage preparation is essential in helping couples work through the questions and challenges that will arise after they marry, specifically those in regard to raising children.

Baptized Catholics are required to marry according to “canonical form,” that is, in Catholic ceremonies. Normally, a mixed marriage is celebrated by a priest outside of Mass because both spouses so not share full communion with the Church. At times, serious reasons may present obstacles to observing the “canonical form” of marriage. In these cases, the Catholic spouse should seek a Dispensation From Form (permission to marry in a non-Catholic ceremony). The Church cannot recognize a non-Catholic ceremony, involving a Catholic party, without a dispensation. Subsequently, marrying according to canonical form (convalidation) remains possible for Catholics in this situation, even many years after a non-Catholic wedding. See your parish priest or deacon for more information.

See also: Interfaith-marriages

If your parish does not have a marriage preparation class in place, there are various programs available to you within the Archdiocese, all of which focus on the theology of Catholic marriage as well as important life skills. Through your parish you will receive help in identifying a marriage preparation program that best fits your needs. These programs are available on weekdays, weekends, and, if needed, online. Find the format that works best for your engagement.

Note: Completing one of these courses (or a different program available through your parish) fulfills the marriage preparation step #4 of enrolling in a marriage preparation program. Review our “Preparation for Holy Matrimony” brochure for more information.

Weekday Courses

God’s Plan for Marriage Prep Program

These seminars explore God’s divine plan for marriage and also focus on how couples can build a strong foundation for their marriage. These classes meet on Thursday evenings from 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM at St. Catherine of Siena parish.

Location: St. Catherine of Siena Catholic Church, Denver
Day/Time: Thursday evenings from 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM 2018
Session Dates:
- 2019 June 6, 13, 20, 27
- 2019 August 8, 15, 22, 29
- 2019 September 5, 12, 19, 26
- 2019 October 3, 10, 17, 24
Registration: Call 720-212-8303 or email coleman.colin@gmail.com Cost: $180 (This includes study materials)
To Pay: Send check/money order to Colin Coleman. In the memo, put “marriage seminar” and the month that you have selected. You will be sent a confirmation of registration by email.
Please send registration/payment to:
Deacon Colin Coleman 4201 Eliot St. Denver, CO 80211

Catholic Marriage Prep. Com – Live Classes

This program is taught by married couples, based on JPII’s Theology of the Body, and the teachings of the Catholic Church. This class has four evening sessions.

Location: St. John Paul II Center – Denver (1300 S. Steele St, Denver, CO, 80210)
Time: 6:30-9:00pm 2018
Session Dates:
- 2019 October 2, 9, 16, 23 (Wed)
Cost: $185
More information: 719-531-0738
To register for the live program: www.catholicmarriageprep.com

Weekend Retreats/Intensive Courses

Engaged Couples Retreat

This retreat is held Friday evening and all-day Saturday. It is based on St. John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body.” It is led by Msgr. Leone and infused with his unique insight into married couples’ dynamic relationships. There are also presentations by married couples and ample time to discuss the Sacrament of Marriage with each other and other engaged couples. There is an opportunity for both Reconciliation and Mass.

Location: TBA
Date: TBA
Cost: $180 per couple (includes 4 meals and materials)
More information: contact Sally Hillen at 303-929-2275
Registration: engagedcouplesretreat.com

Marriage-Builder Weekend – Light of the World

This weekend is an engaging mix of practical, spiritual, and theological presentations based on St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body and the teachings of the Catholic Church. This course will be led by a team of married couples and a priest. Presentations are followed by group breakout sessions or time together as a couple. These activities are intended to apply what you have learned from the presentations to your own lives.

Location: Light of the World Catholic Church, Littleton
Dates:
- 2019 August 9, 10, 11
- 2020 January 24-26
- 2020 April 24-26
Call: 303-973-3969 x244 (Sherwood Owens)
More Information: Marriage Builder Brochure
Cost: $150 per couple (includes materials and meals)

St. Mary Parish Marriage Prep Retreat

This weekend retreat helps couples grown in understanding of God’s plan for happiness in marriage. Married mentor couples will witness to how God works in their marriages to help them work through hardship and find a greater joy in marriage. We will also look at how living authentic sexuality fulfills the deepest desire of our hearts. We will attend Mass together and have an opportunity for Confession.

Location: St. Mary Catholic Church, Littleton
Dates/Times: These retreats occur twice a year (in the spring and fall).
More information and registration: www.stmarylittleton.org/marriageprepretreat
Cost: $180 (per couple – includes 5 meals and all materials)

St. Thomas More Marriage Prep Retreat

This weekend experience will allow couples preparing for marriage to fully understand the Sacrament of Matrimony in the Catholic Church. Couples will enjoy engaging presentations on topics related to God’s plan for marriage and receive fundamental tools for building and sustaining a Christ-centered marriage. The retreat weekend is hosted by married couples and clergy from the parish. Couples will participate in small group discussion, prayer, Confession and fun activities. The weekend concludes with a private Mass and receiving a special blessing for all retreat participants.

All couples must submit a letter of permission from their church of preparation to attend the retreat weekend. Please include letter of permission with registration form and payment.

Registration form
Location: St. Thomas More Catholic Church, Centennial
Dates:
- 2019 September 6, 7
  (Registration closes on August 26, 2019. NO EXCEPTIONS.)
Times:
- Friday: 6pm-10pm
- Saturday: 8am-7pm
Cost: $150 per couple (includes meals and all retreat materials)
For more information and registration: Contact Jodi Lieske at 303-221-9234 or jodil@stthomasmore.org

Online Courses

Catholic Marriage Prep. Com – Online Program

With pastor approval, this program is available to couples who need the flexibility of an online program. It is based on St. John Paul II’s Theology of the Body, and the teachings of the Catholic Church.

Cost: $194
More information: 866-425-7193
To register for the online program: www.catholicmarriageprep.com